Dear Abby: A reminder in verse about how parenting style affects a child

DEAR ABBY: While shopping at the mall, I have seen too many stressed-out parents ignore or yell at their children. It certainly isn’t helpful. It isn’t how I was raised or how I raised mine. Years ago, I saw a poem in your column that addressed the ramifications of bad parenting versus good parenting. From what I’ve been seeing, you should print it again. Many parents who should read it won’t see themselves in it, but it could help the ones who do. Its message is so important. Thank you. — JANET F. IN MINNESOTA

DEAR JANET: I know the poem you are referring to and I agree it sends an important message for parents. Read on:


By Dorothy Law Nolte

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy

If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence

If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate

If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith

If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.

This is one of many profound poems and essays included in my “Keepers” booklet, which was compiled because so many readers requested reprints of their favorites.

Some are witty, others are philosophical. The topics include children, animals, aging, parenting, death and forgiveness.

The booklet can be ordered by sending your name and address plus a check or money order (U.S. funds) for $8, to Dear Abby Keepers Booklet, P.O. Box 447, …read more

Source:: Chicago Sun Times

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