Ask Amy: Gay couple wonders how to respond to neighbors’ petty harassment


Dear Amy: I live in a condo building with my girlfriend (we are gay), in a large city. We’ve lived here for three years.

Our neighbors (a married couple in their 60s or 70s) have been rude and standoffish ever since we moved in. They ignore us when we greet them and typically just glare at us. We’ve always been considerate neighbors, so they have no reason to dislike us — beyond the obvious.

Recently, my girlfriend bought a rainbow-colored welcome mat for our front door.

Within a few days, we were informed that our neighbors had filed a complaint with the homeowners association, saying that the mat was an “eyesore.” The president of the HOA told us that the complaint was petty, and not to worry about it.

Since then, those neighbors have sent in over a dozen or so complaints — everything from false noise complaints, to (incorrectly) stating that we don’t dispose of our garbage correctly.

The HOA president has told us to work out our differences.

My girlfriend wrote our neighbors a letter asking to have a dialogue with them. They never responded.

This has been dominating our lives. We refuse to move, and we love our place otherwise. How do we get these people to talk to us?

— Upset

Dear Upset: It was very kind of you to react to this harassment by trying to talk it out, but why, oh why, do you want to force these people to talk to you? Their actions are speaking loudly enough.

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