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DEAR CAROLYN: I am engaged to a great guy with many wonderful qualities and I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with him.
But he is prejudiced against one specific race, which also happens to be the race of several of my ex-boyfriends. He works in law enforcement, so part of me wants to attribute the racism to the fact that he has seen this particular race do many horrible things that I haven’t. This seems like a pretty trivial thing — we all have some sort of bias or prejudice — but it’s getting to the point where I can’t even talk to a member of this race in a work meeting about a work-related project without my fiance turning it into a huge fight and accusing me of trying to be a liaison for all [race] people.
Carolyn Hax: Should I let this guy determine where I live?
Carolyn Hax: I’m freaked out by this family’s sweet togetherness
Carolyn Hax: He hates Christmas, but he won’t let me skip it
Carolyn Hax: Her kids aren’t allowed to call ‘that woman’ grandma
Carolyn Hax: How can I stop the flood of gifts from grandma?
He doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong, and I end up being the one to apologize and try to fix things — even though I don’t think I’m doing anything wrong either. …read more
Source:: The Mercury News