Matthew Hussey, dating expert at howtogettheguy.com and howtogettheguy.com/blog and author of New York Times bestseller “Get the Guy,” told Business Insider UK what to watch out for in the early stages of dating.
Here’s a transcript of the video:
In the early stages of dating red flags are everything. You have to pay attention to everything you see.
I was told once: You can see why a relationship is going to end in the first week of a relationship if you pay attention.
We have to pay attention to the red flags. Red flags could be that you’re at a restaurant and the person you’re with is mean with the waiter, or the barman.
If somebody is not kind to the people around you, even if they are being kind to you, you know that when they don’t care about somebody that’s how they act. One day that might be you.
The same is true of gossip. If they are gossiping about their friends, or if they are giving you details that they shouldn’t about somebody who spoke to them in confidence. One day they’re going to gossip about you. One day they’re going to reveal your secrets.
To me, in the early stages, I’m always looking for: Is somebody kind? Are they someone who is thoughtful? Are they someone who is generous? I’m looking for the fundamentals.
The little details? Those things can be compromised on.
The fundamentals of character, those are what you need to be looking for. If people violate those, that’s a major red flag.
Source:: Business Insider